[LostGirl @lostgirl]

I’m sick of being made to feel like I’m needy. In most of my relationships and friendships, I’ve often felt like I’m asking for too much when I’m just asking for the basics. Talking to my therapist has helped me see that it’s okay to express my needs, and if others aren’t willing to meet them, it reflects more on them than on me. Wanting love and appreciation isn’t needy, yet I’ve always been made to feel that way. Even in my last relationship, I gave my all without getting much in return. And in my current friends with benefits situation, simply asking when we’ll meet next is seen as too clingy. It’s exhausting to constantly feel this way, even my parents sometimes add to it. I think a lot of it does relate back to childhood trauma, past relationship trauma etc, it just sucks to feel like this all the time.

[Carlene @carlene]

I can relate to this struggle. Understanding that people often have different priorities and learning to accept that has been key to my own progress. As I’ve grown older, I’ve realized that not everyone will be a good fit for me, and that’s okay—it’s not a reflection on my worth. Wishing you all the best!

[ann @ann]

I have been thinking about what your therapist said. You don’t come across as someone asking for too much. I believe it’s possible to meet people looking for something similar and ready to give the same in return. It feels natural and normal to me.

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