[Trover @trover]

When I was a kid, I was very happy-go-lucky. I liked having fun. But as I got older, around the end of elementary school and into middle school, I started to get really angry. I would lash out at classmates, teachers, and even my mom. My anger got so bad that I almost got in trouble with the police once. Even though I’m better at controlling my emotions now than I was ten years ago, I still have moments where I fly into a rage, scream at people, and act aggressively. It’s cost me three jobs already.

I have tried therapy, exercise, and different medications, but nothing seems to help. I worry if I’m just destined to be bitter, unhappy, and angry forever. What should I do?

[Marva @marva]

I’m not sure if therapy will help because I’ve tried it for a long time. Eventually, I found an anger management coach, but he’s expensive. However, he taught me how to change my perspective when I’m angry, although it takes a while. I had to keep an anger diary, create a safety management plan, and learn the difference between my thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and actions. Being clear about these helps me recognize the early warning signs of anger and how I react to them.

There are also some free resources like YouTube channels and online podcasts you can try. People like Christian Conte and Alastair Duhs have helpful content, but there are others out there too. I’m not endorsing them, just offering some names you can search for.

Good luck!

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