How do you control anger?

Going for a walk is one thing I do every day. Seems beneficial, gets me outta the house, can buy some food, have a coffee, have some meaningful conversations with crows if they’re not too busy.

Exercise is the healthiest thing I’ve found to manage it, particularly more energetic stuff. I know it’s a fairly obvious suggestion, but it does really help me. Sorry you’re struggling with this.

It wasn’t safe for me to express anger growing up. I was quiet and played more of a peacekeeper role I guess but sometimes the anger was there, just not expressed. This could make me seem like a person who did not get angry, but who doesn’t sometimes? I just never felt OK to express it and never learned how. It seems like a lot of people struggle with handling strong emotions like anger – they just feel overwhelmed by them. It’s hard to manage these feelings when you never learned how, especially when you’re older and trying to figure it out.

I am disabled (wheelchair user) and have a lot of issues with chronic pain, so exercise hasn’t been a great option for me. I’ve found that the best thing I can do is remove myself from the situation. When I am in a situation causing anger (for example a horrible interaction with a family member), I have found that if I stay in that situation the anger only gets worse until I eventually explode in a way I didn’t want to. I try to remove myself from the situation however possible and go do something else that I enjoy. Whether that be reading a book, watching a movie, or working on a project, I find that focusing on something else is very helpful for me and allows the anger to dissipate. However, sometimes I really need to scream. Not at anyone, just scream to let out the frustration. When I really need to do that, I try to go to a room where there isn’t anyone else and/or scream into a pillow or something to muffle the sound. Sometimes just the act of letting out the anger/frustration out loud feels like I am expelling it from my body and allows me to move on from it more quickly, as opposed to holding on to it. Hope this helps.